|May 22, 2014|
Previously published on May 21, 2014
If you are involved in a divorce case or a case involving child custody, Mother’s day and Father’s day present unique opportunities for either party.
In a family law case, the judge is more likely to award primary conservatorship to the party who demonstrates the better co-parenting skills.
A fundamental concept of our Judeo-Christian society is the Second Commandment. The Second Commandment requires us to “honor thy parents”. Mother’s day and Father’s day present a unique opportunity to demonstrate that you are the better parent at teaching the child to honor thy other parent.
For many parties currently involved in a divorce proceeding, the last thing you want to do is to buy a gift and a card for your divorcing spouse. But that is exactly what you need to do! What you are actually doing is to help the child to buy a gift and a card for the other parent. In this manner, you are demonstrating excellent co-parenting skills by showing that you understand the importance of honoring both parents. You are demonstrating that you will teach the child to honor and cherish the other parent.
For small children it might even be better to share an experience with your child in making a card for the other parent. Very few things that you could do with your child clearly indicate that you are better at co-parenting, than working with your child to make a Father’s Day Card for his or her father. Every parent who has actually done this, I have marked my copy of the card as Exhibit “1”. Every time that has happened, that parent won the custody battle!
The child will remember the experience for years to come. The other parent will keep the card for a long-time. But most importantly, you will be well on your way to demonstrating to the court that you are the better parent in terms of co-parenting skills.