- How to Deal With Custodial Situations During Summer Vacation
- June 1, 2015
- Law Firm: Daniel M. Copeland Attorney at Law P.A. - Jacksonville Office
- If you’re a parent in a custodial situation who has a timesharing plan in place, you may be worried about how things will go during your children’s summer break. Here are some tips to help you get along with the other parent even if the relationship has been strained in the past
Follow the agreed-upon timeline
Even though it may not be convenient, it is best for both parents to follow the agreed-upon schedule, particularly if the visitation schedule is part of a court order. Even if you both agree on the changes, it would be best to wait until your attorneys get the approval of the judge who oversees the case.
Bite your lip
No matter how bitter your feelings toward the other parent, don’t show them around the children. Instead, focus on the children’s needs. If you need to vent, see a therapist. Otherwise, say only positive things while you are with the children. You could get into legal trouble if you try to manipulate your children’s feelings toward the other parent.
Inform the other parent about travel plans
If travel plans are in the offing during your summer vacation, notify the custodial parent. If the situation is extremely strained, you can communicate through your attorney. In case of emergency, both parents should be aware of where their children are. While you’re on vacation, allow your children to communicate with the other parent so he or she doesn’t worry.
Communication is key
Take the initiative to provide opportunities for your children to bond with their non-custodial parent. Initiate phone calls and video chat sessions so that the children can communicate often with both parents.
Pack needed items and instructions for using them
Since the non-custodial parent is not used to taking care of the children, make it easier for him or her by packing medications and other necessities along with instructions about their use. If the children are taking summer enrichment classes or involved in sports or the arts, provide directions to the venue as well as needed equipment.
Prepare your children beforehand
Since children feel most comfortable in familiar surroundings, custodial parents should prepare their children for their visit with the non-custodial parent. Stay upbeat and positive to build eager anticipation about the visit.
If you’re the custodial parent, you’ll need to prepare yourself to spending time alone. If you’re a social person, consider doing volunteer work or taking classes. If you’re the non-custodial parent, you’ll need to prepare yourself for the children’s arrival.
If you encounter any negative situations, do not hesitate to call your attorney. For more information about handling custodial situations, contact the law firm today.